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(Note from Pete: this is an older article but thought it was a good one for this time of year. January's almost done, so it's a good time to re-focus on your goals for 2020 - You can make it happen!)
Do you know anyone who is a perfectionist? The kind of person who when they're learning something new, if they don't do it absolutely perfectly right away, they beat themselves up about it? Or they simply give up?
When working with hypnosis clients, this kind of thinking sometimes comes
up because after each session I give people 'homework' to do. These
assignments vary but are always related to developing whatever new habit
they're coming to see me for.
Most people make great progress in the first few sessions, but sometimes they focus more on the occasions that they "messed up" then on all the successes they've had. For example, a pack-a-day smoker might lapse and have a single cigarette and then really beat themselves up about it. When this happens I remind them of all their good work they've done, about all the other 139 cigarettes that they didn't smoke that week, and in addition explain how it's not about perfection, it's about persistence.
Children are a great example of persistence. If they want to learn how to
do something that they can't do, they will keep at it until they can do
it. From crawling to walking to running to speaking, feeding and dressing
ourselves, these were all big unknowns at one time that we take for
The same with everything you've done in the arts from forms to sparring,
it was all new at one point and now it's easy to do without any conscious
thought. Kicking, for example, is now a habit in the same way that
scratching your nose is, you just think about it and it happens.
All my very best to you,
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